Monday, July 16, 2012

Summer, Gravity and Anatomy

Last night on facebook I wrote this as my status update:

 "I can't say what I want to say here, so tomorrow I'm going to blog it in a super-duper-politically correct-sensitive but hopefully to-the-point way. It concerns boobs, summer, and class. I hope you'll tune in tomorrow at the blog, ladies because this one is for you." 

That wasn't what it originally said, however. What it originally said was written in a much more blunt, less sensitive way. I don't like to come across as insensitive so I decided I needed a blog post to say it instead of a facebook update.

Here's the thing: Every summer it's the same story. It gets hot, and women start wearing smaller and smaller tops to try and stay cool. I totally get that, I do the exact same thing. Well, maybe not "smaller" but definitely less material around the neckline and sleeves. "Smaller" is for women who have not had seven kids and never got their figure back after kid #7. However, I digress. I honestly don't know if this is on the increase or I just notice it more these days, but everywhere I look it seems (grocery store, facebook & twitter pics, bank, park, etc.) when summertime is in full swing, there are women in their 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s and older, wearing tiny little summer tops without a bra.

Now I have two things to say about that. Well, three really but the first two are the two that first came to mind:

 #1 As a woman I completely understand that in certain types of weather, bras are just a miserable thing to wear. Those who choose to go braless because they're hot, sticky, uncomfortable, etc. have my sympathy. Now, with that said...

 #2 Gravity, ladies, is NOT your friend. Gravity hates you, and wants to destroy you. Gravity is something none of us can avoid, and eventually will cause things to shift into places that they were never intended to shift into - if you catch what I'm saying. Gravity is ESPECIALLY unkind to those women who are more endowed than others and who have routinely gone braless over the years. Think: waistline accessories.

Now I can only imagine what some might think as they read that. "I don't care what you think!" "It's my body, what business is it of yours!?" and things like that. Just to answer those two reactions I will say it doesn't really matter what I think and you're right, it's NONE of my business if you go around braless, demonstrating for the general public what gravity can do to a woman and how unbelievably unattractive it is. However, I would hope that these women might care about what men think when they see this.

Let me just clarify that last statement by saying certain men.  Over the years in conversations with my husband, male relatives and male friends, I've come to understand (and even I knew this at 15 when I'd hear boys making comments about it) that men essentially fall into two camps when it comes to the summer-time-endowed-gravity-display that women put on with tiny summer tops and no bra.

Camp #1 finds it horribly unattractive (in much the same way many women would find a fat man in a speedo horribly unattractive. Yes, "oh that's just disgusting!" is what many will think, even if they don't say it outloud.)

Camp #2 suddenly sees that woman as an object, instead of a human being.  She's no longer a woman, she's a pair of jiggly boobs and his thoughts turn to lusting after her.  He doesn't give a rip about her thoughts, her likes, her dislikes, her favorite movie, her sense of humor, her worries or her fears.  All he sees are boobs (conveniently attached to a body) and all he wants is one thing.

Now I don't pretend to understand why people think the way they do sometimes, but I do realize that there are some women out there who are oddly enough, okay with being thought of as an object for sex.  My heart aches for them and I sure wish they had more class and self-respect than that, but if that's what they want, there's not much I can say to change their mind.

However, I also realize there are women out there who may have not known how they come across to men when they ditch the bra for summer and wear these kinds of tops.  I mean, while lustful men are typically pigs who make themselves known, most of them aren't going to walk right up and say "hey there, I'm a raunchy pig" and then go on to explain that he's just reduced the woman (in his mind) to an object.

So I guess this post is for the ladies out there that didn't know.  Now, you do.  What you do with that information is totally your business.