Saturday, July 21, 2012

Why You Make No Sense?

This is a post in which I will discuss social issues, modern culture, politics, hypocrisy, closed-minded fundamentalists, homosexual-marriage, Biblical family values and chickens.  Funny thing is, I don't even like chickens.

As you may have suspected, what's on my mind today is the media uproar over Chick-Fil-A President Dan Cathy's statements to a reporter that he supports "the traditional family".  Specifically, when asked about the company's position in support of the traditional family, according to this article, Cathy said this:

"Well, guilty as charged - We are very much supportive of the family -- the biblical definition of the family unit. We are a family-owned business, a family-led business, and we are married to our first wives. We give God thanks for that. We operate as a family business ... our restaurants are typically led by families; some are single. We want to do anything we possibly can to strengthen families. We are very much committed to that... We intend to stay the course... We know that it might not be popular with everyone, but thank the Lord, we live in a country where we can share our values and operate on biblical principles."

Frankly, as a fellow Christian I saw absolutely nothing wrong with this at all, and admired his willingness to be that open about where the company stands.  He wasn't rude, he wasn't obnoxious, he wasn't anything but pro-family and for me, that earns him huge points (even if he does sell chickens).

Now, for some reason, all kinds of folks got all upset about this.  I assume it's because they're shocked that a Christian actually lives and does business like one.  Or it's because they have the nerve to actually come out and say publicly that they believe what the Bible says about the family unit.  Or maybe it's because they know what Christians believe but they just hate it so much that they simply cannot tolerate one voicing his beliefs.  I suppose there's all sorts of reasons why folks got upset, why the mainstream media went all ballistic over what Cathy said and why gay rights folks at the Human Rights Campaign went so far as to commit libel against the company by putting a fake logo up accusing them of supporting discrimination.  Even though, Cathy emphatically stated in this article that it's the company's position

"to treat every person with honor, dignity and respect -- regardless of their belief, race, creed, sexual orientation or gender."

Ironically enough, this is one of those pesky, archaic Biblical values that anti-Christian people rail against so much, and they don't even realize it.  Treating people this way is what Jesus taught us to do because all men (READ: ALL HUMAN BEINGS) are created in the image of God and we're to treat all people this way - without exception.  Now, some people make it really really really hard to treat them this way (vile criminals, rapists, child molesters, hate-filled racists, etc.) but this is what we as Christians are called to do, no matter what.  Dan Cathy's business operating on that Christian principle flies right in the face of any outrageous accusation of supporting discrimination.

The most ironic statement of all that I've read so far, was that of Boston Mayor Thomas M. Menino. As printed in this article in the Boston Herald, here's what Mayor Menino had to say about Chick-Fil-A coming to Boston:

"Chick-fil-A doesn’t belong in Boston. You can’t have a business in the city of Boston that discriminates against a population. We’re an open city, we’re a city that’s at the forefront of inclusion... That’s the Freedom Trail. That’s where it all started right here. And we’re not going to have a company, Chick-fil-A or whatever the hell the name is, on our Freedom Trail.”

You may be wondering why I find that ironic?  It's very simple, really.  If I re-worded that ever so slightly, you'd see it clear as day.  Let's turn things around and pretend for a moment Mayor Menino is one of those narrow-minded Christian fundamentalists we all hear about and cringe when they make a statement, and the company in question takes a very open, very pro-gay stance.  Now here is Menino's sentiments once again:

"Your company doesn’t belong in Boston. You can’t have a business in the city of Boston that takes a pro-gay stance. We’re a Christian city, we’re a city that’s at the forefront of Biblical values... That’s the Bible Trail. That’s where it all started right here. And we’re not going to have a company, whatever the name is, on our Bible Trail.”

Now, doesn't that sound eerily like those people who are SO well known for using Christianity as a club, as they go around making all kinds of noise in the media, boycotting things like funerals, and making a complete and total mockery of genuine Christianity?  Of course it does, it sounds EXACTLY like that, and that's why I find it so ironic.  I know I'm not the only one who sees it, since according to this article, Focus on the Family's Glenn T. Stanton said 

"They [Chick-fil-A's critics] are the new close-minded fundamentalists."

Bingo.  So much for tolerance, eh? Oh how times have changed... 

Monday, July 16, 2012

Summer, Gravity and Anatomy

Last night on facebook I wrote this as my status update:

 "I can't say what I want to say here, so tomorrow I'm going to blog it in a super-duper-politically correct-sensitive but hopefully to-the-point way. It concerns boobs, summer, and class. I hope you'll tune in tomorrow at the blog, ladies because this one is for you." 

That wasn't what it originally said, however. What it originally said was written in a much more blunt, less sensitive way. I don't like to come across as insensitive so I decided I needed a blog post to say it instead of a facebook update.

Here's the thing: Every summer it's the same story. It gets hot, and women start wearing smaller and smaller tops to try and stay cool. I totally get that, I do the exact same thing. Well, maybe not "smaller" but definitely less material around the neckline and sleeves. "Smaller" is for women who have not had seven kids and never got their figure back after kid #7. However, I digress. I honestly don't know if this is on the increase or I just notice it more these days, but everywhere I look it seems (grocery store, facebook & twitter pics, bank, park, etc.) when summertime is in full swing, there are women in their 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s and older, wearing tiny little summer tops without a bra.

Now I have two things to say about that. Well, three really but the first two are the two that first came to mind:

 #1 As a woman I completely understand that in certain types of weather, bras are just a miserable thing to wear. Those who choose to go braless because they're hot, sticky, uncomfortable, etc. have my sympathy. Now, with that said...

 #2 Gravity, ladies, is NOT your friend. Gravity hates you, and wants to destroy you. Gravity is something none of us can avoid, and eventually will cause things to shift into places that they were never intended to shift into - if you catch what I'm saying. Gravity is ESPECIALLY unkind to those women who are more endowed than others and who have routinely gone braless over the years. Think: waistline accessories.

Now I can only imagine what some might think as they read that. "I don't care what you think!" "It's my body, what business is it of yours!?" and things like that. Just to answer those two reactions I will say it doesn't really matter what I think and you're right, it's NONE of my business if you go around braless, demonstrating for the general public what gravity can do to a woman and how unbelievably unattractive it is. However, I would hope that these women might care about what men think when they see this.

Let me just clarify that last statement by saying certain men.  Over the years in conversations with my husband, male relatives and male friends, I've come to understand (and even I knew this at 15 when I'd hear boys making comments about it) that men essentially fall into two camps when it comes to the summer-time-endowed-gravity-display that women put on with tiny summer tops and no bra.

Camp #1 finds it horribly unattractive (in much the same way many women would find a fat man in a speedo horribly unattractive. Yes, "oh that's just disgusting!" is what many will think, even if they don't say it outloud.)

Camp #2 suddenly sees that woman as an object, instead of a human being.  She's no longer a woman, she's a pair of jiggly boobs and his thoughts turn to lusting after her.  He doesn't give a rip about her thoughts, her likes, her dislikes, her favorite movie, her sense of humor, her worries or her fears.  All he sees are boobs (conveniently attached to a body) and all he wants is one thing.

Now I don't pretend to understand why people think the way they do sometimes, but I do realize that there are some women out there who are oddly enough, okay with being thought of as an object for sex.  My heart aches for them and I sure wish they had more class and self-respect than that, but if that's what they want, there's not much I can say to change their mind.

However, I also realize there are women out there who may have not known how they come across to men when they ditch the bra for summer and wear these kinds of tops.  I mean, while lustful men are typically pigs who make themselves known, most of them aren't going to walk right up and say "hey there, I'm a raunchy pig" and then go on to explain that he's just reduced the woman (in his mind) to an object.

So I guess this post is for the ladies out there that didn't know.  Now, you do.  What you do with that information is totally your business.