• A man or a woman's marital problems are private and should be KEPT private. When made a matter of public discussion you might receive all kinds of advice ranging from really good, to really awful and you open yourself up to sitting in the counsel of fools or worse, taking their advice. Never a smart idea.• If you're a woman with questions, seek out a sister talk to - not a man. The same obviously applies to a man: seek out a brother. I'll be as blunt as I usually am with things like this - if you are married, you have no business whatsoever discussing your intimiate life with another person of the opposite sex. Now obviously if you and your spouse are together, and discussing things face to face with your pastor, that's a different matter. I'm not referring to that scenario though.• Speaking to the ladies here only: you need to remember that the best of men, are still men at best. You have a duty and an obligation before the Lord to avoid giving your brothers any reason to have any kinds of thoughts about you that would not be pleasing to the Lord. Having personal conversations with them, in private, about private and intimate things, is a danger zone that you have no business being in. DONT go there, no matter how "understanding and compassionate" he might be.
On more than one occasion I have seen public discussions of very private matters, that just make me cringe. Some of the things that people confess in a public, internet setting are so embarassing (for them) that you just wish you could help them take their words back and think very carefully before they type the next sentence. It's not that some of the things they admit to aren't real, or aren't real problems or difficulties that they might have, it's more a matter of TMI - too much information - that has no place being discussed in mixed company or in public.